Proverbs in July: Chapter 5

I am doing Chapter 5 solo (and late, although I have continued to keep up daily, I am just now blogging about this chapter). I would not be real with myself or my readers if I just stopped writing or skipped writing about certain chapters which I did not fully grasp. That is not being honest about my journey, to growth, both spiritual and personal.

Chapter 5: Warning Against Adultery

It sounds simple enough right? Perhaps to simple, perhaps it just down out right is what it is, a warning against the wayward woman. As I was reading (which I continued to re-read again and again hoping to gain a more clear understanding) I couldn’t help but to think this was a huge metaphor, not only for adultery, but for sin in general.

“For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil;
but in the end she is bitter as gall,
sharp as a double-edged sword.”

-Proverbs 5:3-4

For me personally this could be metaphorically speaking of the devil/Satan who can appeal to anyone as their deepest desires, their every hope and dream, but in the end being a trap to lure you into his deceit.

I kept reading it in this way, but I was uncertain.

However in verses 15-17 :Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.

I can understand metaphorically to mean to drink from your own cistern/ running water from your own well, indulge with the lady that is your own (wife). “Never be shared with strangers”, women who are not your own. Never share yourself with another woman outside of your own.

So then in that sense I can see it specifically referring to adultery literally. I guess I am just jumping ahead because most of all it confuses me that this is addressed to me, about women, but what about warning women of strange men.

Well these are my thoughts upon chapter 5. Nothing deep and insightful; more inquisitive and curious.

::Perfection::

As always I was recollecting on my have nots, thinking about where I wanted to go in life, and where I was headed. A question then popped up:

“What is the perfect life to you?”

 

I had to think…of course my mind goes towards finances, because that is where most of my issues lie. Then I thought, nope, with all the problems these celebs have, money can not make life perfect either. Then it hit me….

FAITH!

Having perfect faith in our Father, trusting in Him to deliver us from all of our struggles, our fears, our weaknesses, knowing that our “problems” are already solved would make life perfect.

There would be no reason to worry or fear. Say rent is due and you have no way of paying it….you could stress about it, but what will stressing do for you? How will it change your situation. You could pray it out…

“Lord, I am coming to you, asking you to allow me to see and take advantage of any opprotunites that you send my way Lord, and even more Father, I am asking that you guide me, so that I won’t mistakeningly be misguided by the devil and any of his traps. Lord, grant me the peace, comfort, faith, and trust to follow Your light, in the midst of my darkness.

Amen.”

After saying that prayer, you trust in Him with everything and allow Him to take you down whatever road it is that He leads you. Even if He never makes a way for you to pay that rent and you find yourself being evicted, a lot of people would question Him, doubt Him, this is where a lot of people would become afraid. You have to trust in Him with EVERYTHING!

“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.”

Hebrews 11:1

As all of this was going through my head I thought back to last Summer, I had taken the kids swimming. It was just 3 of my Kings and I. I wanted to K3, the youngest, to sit on the steps inside the pool so that I could help one of the other boys. For just a second I just needed him to sit there. He was afraid…he clinged on to me, would not let me go. Although I knew that he was safe, he was scared, although he knew that I would never let anything happen to him, his fear did not allow him to have peace over the matter. I finally got him to sit still and just as I began to shift away, he acted out of fear, and hopped off of step, almost going under water, but of course I was able to catch him. He did not understand, that he was safe on that step. He did not trust, that although I had put him there, that he was safe, his fear did not allow him to trust that. I put him there, because that is where I needed him to be, at that time, and although it may have been scary…all he had to do was just sit there and be safe. It was him acting out of fear, taking measures in his own hands, that placed him in danger. Do yall see where I am going with this???

God is the PERFECT parent. When you think about how much you love your children, when you think about what lengths you will go for them, understand that God loves you even more than that….not to mention that He gave up His only son for YOU!!! How many of us, could/would allow our own children, not only to be killed, but to be TORTURED as Jesus was, but God did that for you and I. We have no reason, no right to question His love, or His place for us in this life. Yet it is human nature, that we do, and that is fine…but in those times, remind yourself who He really is, how hard He really loves, and more important remind yourself that He loves YOU.

He may place us in scary situations, that we may not be able to understand, as I did with K3 in the swimming pool. It is not our job to “act”, we just simply have to have patience and faith, and let God work.

Whether it is a lesson that needs to be learned.

Whether he is moving you out to move you UP.

Whether the reward is immediate or, whether it is set up years on down the line. Trust in Him.

Think about your own children. You don’t just take things away from them, just to be mean. No, you may take away their beloved Playstation 3 because you have gotten them the Playstation 4… or you may take it away as a punishment, for a lesson to be learned. The children, themselves, may not understand your methods. They may not see any good coming from it, until they themselves reach adulthood and they look back and not only can understand what mom or dad was saying, but also be very grateful for the lesson, for it is all in the benefit of them.

So when you feel lost or confused with the events that are taking place in your life, when you begin to feel scared, or alone, when it seems as if life just isn’t fair, remember that you are merely a child to THE perfect parent, God Himself. You may not understand the method to His madness right now, but one day you will get it…in the meantime, just thank Him for being forever present.

“And He said to them, “Because of the littleness of your faith; for truly I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you shall say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it shall move; and nothing shall be impossible to you”

Matthew 17:20

Who Is THE Creator?

Who are our children?

Why are our children??

Often I am complimented on how well behaved my children are. Honestly I have nothing to do with that, I would contribute that to my husband and he would proudly stake the claim. However I often wonder, is it even him? Are our children so well behaved because of him and his discipline? Are they well behaved due to some genetic wiring? or are they well behaved because that is just who they are, who God (yes I am very spiritual) made them to be.

After all, don’t we all know that one kid, no matter how many time outs they get, no matter how strict their parents are, or no matter how hard they are fussed at or threatened….they still just act out. So can my husband rightfully take credit for their good behavior, or are the kids good….simply because they are good kids?

See science tells us, that kids recieve this amount of genes from mom, the other half from dad, sooooo the kid will have some of moms traits, and some of dads. K2 have so many of my husbands mannerisms, it’s sickening. My husband says that K2 reminds him a lot of himself when he was a kid, while K1, has a lot of his present mannerisms, smart mouth, like to annoy people, funny, out-going, friendly. K2 and K3 are both reserved like momma, but let loose in their comfort zones….anywho, back to my point…science tell us that that are due to genetics right, but what if…we all share similar personalities, not because of something we did (transfer genes), but because God took us and grouped us together according to our personalities. You know how teachers will sometimes assign group projects or some sort and will pair compatible students together.

I believe that kinda how families are formed. Is it a mere coincidence that you find your soul mate? Is it a coicidence that you meet someone, procreate, then go your seperate ways? See I don’t believe in coincidences, I strongly believe that this whole entire thing called life, is a stage play or movie, written by God. Now yes, I am aware that we all have free will, which ironically even He knows what choices we will choose before we even do. Now I know some atheists or non believers may seem skeptical about that, but is it really that far fetched that our God is all knowing?

After all we are His children right? As parents we can teach our children right or wrong, show them the way (like the bible does us), for instance we can teach our toddlers that playing with the scissors is a “no no”, like adultry is a no no. However when temptation arises, that child, like us, knows where we stand on the issue, “scissors are a no no”, yet in that instance, to go for the scissors or not to go for the scissors, they too, have free will. We as parents, can look at them….eyeballing those scissors, contemplating whether to try it or not, we can tell by their body language, whether or not they are going to seize the opprotunity, or whether they will obey us, their parents. So is it really far fetched to believe that God gives us free will even when He knows that we will not obey.

I’ll go further and say…we can intervene and stop the toddler before ever reaching the scissors, OR we can allow them to get them, and then discipline them accordingly. So is it far fetched to believe that God gives us free will, and allows us to do “bad” things, or things that we shouldn’t be doing, even when he knows that the repercusions will not make us happy?  To me it’s not far fetched at all.

I kinda got off of the topic of the original post. The original topic questioning how much of a role does the parents play on the personality/behavior of their children, vs the child’s God-given, birth right. My mind totally wonders, sometimes, sometimes??? Who am  I kidding, most times.

As always, thanks for taking the time to pick my brain. Take care of yourself, and as always those KA-RAZY, cute and cuddley babies!

Humbly Yours,

The Servant.